OMG!!! I had not written a blog for so long…Really busy doing silly things like gambling BJ over the CNY, reading a few books, went for a cruise,doing toastmasters along the way,blah blah blah…haha…Finally decide to re-live this hobby of mine after reading a blog a special one maintains with so much effort. She’s just so brillant!!! Here’s something interesting I would like to share with all my readers.
While I was reviewing the goals I wrote through my own experience of "Law of Attraction", I had realised there are endless returns beyond my expectations. The most recent wonderful return I had gotten was the trying out of audio books as I’m also quite a silly book fanatic.
The wonderful woman in my life had shared her new love with me happily during the trip home. The shine in her eyes had shown me how much she had kept it to herself all these while as most people aren’t receptive about it. She must had some degree of unhappiness while keeping numb. (The heart ached for a moment then during the walk towards outram MRT.Ouch).
I decided to give it a shot as I’m also running out of time to read the tons of books I bought. The first book I borrowed from library is called "Embracing Uncertainity".
What a pleasant surprise I got!!!
Making a point to bring along a note book…I wrote down notes whenever I hear something that’s of learning potential and exercises that I may find useful to cope with the uncertainities in my life now. Few things I learned over the past few days were :
a. Practising I can learn something from it execrise.e.g I just broken up. I can learn something from it, like learning how to love better at the next avaliable opportunity.
b. Balancing Hopes with wonder. e.g. I hope to start writing a great love story that’s balanced with the thought I wonder if I can write a great love story. This surreal method does manages expectations while not being all that negative at the same time.
c. Doing "the cut up" in the mind to maintain balance in situations. E.g when you get all perked about the new gal/guy on the block. Imagine that the thought is attached to you by a string. Next, imagine you got a big scissors and cut the thot up while convincing nothing much had changed and life can go on irregardless of the situation.
While I had not finish hearing the whole book, I do find ability to step back, look at the situation and make sound decisions a concept I have to constantly try to do as sometimes I get too in depth in situations.
For example, I was chatting with a loved one over some stuff. As the usual man, I was quick to offer solutions on my part. Taking a step back when I woke up the next morning, I awoke with the reminder that man and woman are different as on and off, a woman just needs to be heard. Women have to cope with playing the "efficient" male role at work to gain respect and also get in touch with their feminine side to be able to share thoughts and feelings on and off.
So I told her that next time she need air-time, just say " Wei, air time" and I will gladly be the listener she needs at that moment.
From my understanding of love, I had learned to accept that co-existance as 2 individuals while in love is the greatest gift I can give my other half. The book also reminded me how we should make decisions while we are calm. Like the time I had made a decision to allow my ex to go working on the cruise where my ex grew a lot more than she was in S’pore even though we were just together.
Now moving on, I have on my hand, a woman full of drive, dreams. passion and full of wonderful men around her. I’m constantly reminding myself nowadays to be detached from the feeling of wanting her as my girlfriend, so that she can benefit from growing together as 2 wonderful individuals,enjoying each other’s company and also without any restrictions that some people impose on their partners once they are in a relationship.
As always, we are learning every other day through all means of reading and upgrading. Hope this read will benefit you as much as I benefitted from penning down all these thots.
